The “Honey Do” List
A few (simple but super helpful) contributions:
- Send her flowers for a reason—the 6 month anniversary of your engagement, her birthday, because it’s one week until the wedding.
- Take her younger siblings to a movie, ball game, or the circus.
- Take her Mom and Dad to lunch.
- Give her a half hour foot massage—once a week. (Graduate to pedicure and she’ll never ask you to take out the garbage.)
- Be her personal chauffeur for a day of wedding errands.
- Leave little love notes on her fridge.
- Plan one evening a week just for the two of you—no wedding talk allowed—just romance.
On a more practical level, here are some great ways for the groom to contribute his expertise to the wedding planning. If you are:
- A techno guy, create and manage the wedding web site. If spreadsheets are your thing, you can help manage guest lists, gift lists, and to do lists.
- A wine lover, you can help select the wines and liquors for the reception.
- Into music, research and help select the band or music.
- A car lover, take charge of all the transportation needs for the wedding.
- A foodie, help with the menu planning and/or selection of the caterer.
Another enormous help to your fiancée is to write the thank you notes to your relatives and close friends. Sharing this responsibility goes a long way to reduce what can, at times, seem an overwhelming task.
And one of the best ways a groom can lend a hand is by working with his parents to get a head start on planning the rehearsal dinner. With all the planning needs intrinsic to a wedding, don’t feel shy about putting your expertise to good use.